How to be a leader without using performance pathways
10 GBP

This talk is delivered by Jon Thorne. Jon  spent 15 years developing new ways for employees to collaborate in some of the most complex organisations in the world. 8 years ago Jon gave up work to home educate his children. Jon's talk and handbook summarises how his two worlds merged. A quick overview is below and video explains a bit more... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gGsjiEzUHkI


Overview of Jon's talk and handbook


During the 20th century it became very popular in the workplace, education, sports coaching... for leaders to use performance pathways. These are pre-planned pathways that leaders get their team members to follow because they lead to success.

Many team members are seeing that our stormy 21st century is going to give us all huge society level changes that will blow away, are blowing away, any guarantees that used to come from successfully following a performance pathway. Team members are increasingly reluctant to follow a performance pathway.

Many of the leaders who rely on a performance pathway... are responding by increasing the pressure on their team members to follow the path. This is turning many leaders into bully's. It's also damaging the welfare of many team members.

As leaders increase the pressure on their team members to follow a performance pathway... team members can learn that following the performance pathway is more important than their own welfare... more important than the welfare of others... more important than thinking and learning for themselves. Our team members can learn to blame others for failure. Put pressure on those they consider are under performing. They can learn to fear failure. To fear making mistakes. Our team members can become mentally rigid Unable to adapt when things don’t go to plan. This mental rigidity can make our team members more vulnerable to mental illness. Our team members can believe that achieving their full potential is a serious process of performance. They can stop laughing. Stop creating. Stop inventing. Stop discovering. Team members can feel alone, all at sea, in a big storm.

Our 21st century is not going to suddenly stop being stormy.

Leaders need a way to order and structure their teams without having to constantly struggle to push team members to follow the teams performance pathway.

I have developed a way help leaders learn how to lead by coaching, life skills of accepting and adapting. These life skills have been used by many artists, innovators and adventurers over many years. I have simply found a way to help all leaders learn these life skills.

These life skills help leaders to coach Life skills that give team members space to accept who they are, accept others for who they are, accept the situation the team is in. To coach life skills that support our team members to use their acceptance to adapt their choices to improve the balance between meeting their needs, the needs of others, the needs of the situation the team is in. These balanced choices naturally overlap providing a shared direction of travel for the team, that works for everyone... without everyone having to agree to follow a path. Without us as leaders having to set down a path. It's not chaos. It's another way for a team to get things done that works in the absence of a path to follow. They are life skills to order and structure our lives for the 21st century. Life skills for the 21st century.

In my handbook, I have compared and contrasted the very different interpretations of some generic words by leaders who use performance pathways and leaders who coach accepting and adapting life skills. And a job description for leaders who lead by coaching, life skills to accept and adapt. 


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Leaders can puts the welfare team members first

A coach who puts the welfare of their players first will coach players to accept what they can do, accept what teammates can do, and accept the situation the team is in. They will coach players to use their acceptance to adapt their own “in-game” choices to improve the balance between meeting their needs, the needs of their teammates, and the needs of the situation the team is in. They will create agile, resilient teams that find a way to make the situation work for the team... as each player accepts and adapts their choices. Players are far more able to manage their lives. Free of anxiety. Free of any fear of failure. Free to see that life is to be enjoyed not performed. Free to see that reaching their potential is not a process of performance... it is a process of accepting and adapting. Life is an adventure. Life is fun.

Jon will share how to coach these accepting and adapting life skills as a way to put the welfare of players first. How to put the welfare of players first.






Our 20th century society is based on us having life skills to share a journey along a path that has been laid down for us by others.
We get our children to seek qualifications that prove they have been able to successfully follow a path that has been laid down for them by others.
We choose our leaders based on their ability to lay down a path for us to follow.
Our "normal" life is defined by the path we follow.
Our stormy 21st century is blowing away our "normal".
There is so much society level change that all our pathways are being blown away.
It is stressful and exhausting trying to maintain our "normal" in a storm that is blowing our "normal" away.

It is stressful and exhausting trying to live in chaos.
What can we do?
We can develop life skills that help us to structure and order our lives in the absence of a "normal"... in the absence of a pathway. Life skills to give ourselves order while avoiding the constant stress of trying to follow a path that our stormy 21st century is determined to blow away.

We can develop life skills to give ourselves courage to let go of any need to follow a path and instead give ourselves space to accept who we are, accept others for who they are, accept the situation our group is in. To use this acceptance to adapt our own independent choices to improve the balance between meeting our needs, the needs of others, the needs of the situation our group is in. These balanced choices naturally overlap providing a shared direction of travel for the group, that works for everyone... without everyone having to agree to follow a path. It's not chaos. It's another way for a group to get things done when our stormy 21st century is blowing away our normal pathways. It's a way to order and structure our lives that avoids the stresses of trying to follow a path that our stormy 21st century is blowing away. 

Jon will share how to practice these accepting and adapting life skills that help us to structure our lives without needing to follow a path for very long.

About LifeSkills21.org

We are a not-for-profit association. Our members want to help as many people as possible to develop life skills that are more suited to the stormy 21st century. The money we earn is used to make our life skills work (courses/trips/clubs) cheaper (even free) for young adults.   

We charge for training and support to employees and parents.  Course formats can include say lunch time clubs (Sport, cooking, music, storytelling etc), trips away in remote locations (tall ship sailing, mountain huts, etc) or around developing new products, fixing problems, developing a new strategy, even business planning. We can also run a festival of ideas for employees. Other ideas are welcome, appreciated and enjoyed...

Happy to chat... jon.thorne@MyInnovationSpace.com