Talk to Jon Thorne (founder of LifeSkills21.org)
very happy to chat... email@example.com
You can find out more about me here ... https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vRI4IiGoqvym4vqfGdMYFjdyglBBx_Xe7u_g_R_OG4apiYrWz-XEejeV...
Here is a quick overview
As a coach, parent, and trainer, I see it over and over again. Courses designed to mould others to do the same activities in the same standardised way. Courses designed to make students mould themselves to win acceptance.
I want to get back to the basics of personal development. I want to help others improve themselves, not by moulding them, but by unfolding them.
If we spend all our time following standardised ways of learning and standardised ways of working, we tend to mould ourselves to win acceptance. We can become perfectionists and lower our ability to adapt. Lower our mental agility. Become mentally brittle.
Our perfectionism can create a downward spiral in how we think. If we make a mistake we can feel less confident and doubt ourselves so that we make more mistakes, which makes us doubt ourselves more. We may well also start to believe that anyone who refuses to be like us, refuses to "MeToo", is deliberately trying to knock down the pillars on which we make sense of the world and we must stop them. It is often a stressful, anxious, angry life.
“Children are not things to be molded, but are people to be unfolded.” - Jess Lair
A good way to find new ways to unfold ourselves is to try new things. To risk failure. To be kind to ourselves and others as we create, discover and invent. To forgive ourselves of all our mistakes, as mistakes mean we are learning. And to be kind to others by seeing their mistakes as their own learning. To encourage ourselves and others to make mistakes. To encourage ourselves and each other to express ourselves. No blaming. To adapt to improve the balance between meeting our needs, the needs of others, with the needs of the situation we share. To make our shared situation work for everyone. To see it as an act of unkindness for us to force, manipulate, trap, coerce others to fit a mould, to be like ourselves, to do things in the same standardised way as we do.
- “Why do I dream? So that I can come back to what I know. So that I can see the place I came from with new eyes and extracolors. And the people there see me differently, too. Coming back to where I started is not the same as never leaving.” Sir Terry Pritchett
- "Without leaps of imagination, or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning” - Gloria Steinem
- “You can’t connect the dots looking forward: you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future” - Steve Jobs
Any questions, are welcome